Welcome back! Goddess Tex here, ready to enlighten you on the sacred art of submission. After my previous guide for fellow Dommes and content creators, I've received messages from submissives eager to understand what makes a truly exceptional servant. Today, I'm pulling back the curtain and revealing exactly what I, and many other Dommes, expect from those who wish to serve.
Understanding the Power Exchange
Before we dive into specifics, let's clarify what submission truly means. First of all, let's make this clear, submission is NOT weakness. It's a conscious choice to exchange power with someone you trust. This power exchange forms the foundation of any D/s relationship, whether online or in person.
As a submissive, you're not losing yourself; you're discovering a deeper part of your identity through service and surrender. This journey requires strength, self-awareness, and dedication, qualities I demand in anyone who wishes to serve me.
Essential Qualities Every Submissive Should Cultivate
1. Respect Above All Else
Respect isn't just using honorifics like "Goddess" or "Mistress", though that's certainly required in my presence. True respect manifests in how you approach every interaction: your tone, your attentiveness, and your willingness to acknowledge the value of my time and energy.
Disrespectful behavior is the fastest way to ensure I'll never consider training you. Remember: respect is earned through consistency, not momentary displays of subservience when you're feeling particularly needy.
2. Honesty and Transparency
I expect complete honesty about your experience level, limits, and desires. Pretending to be more experienced than you are or hiding your true limits doesn't impress me, it creates dangerous situations and breaks trust.
A submissive who can vulnerably share their authentic self, including their fears and insecurities, demonstrates the kind of emotional maturity I value in those I train.
3. Active Listening and Following Instructions
When I give an instruction, I expect it to be followed precisely. This isn't about mindless obedience but about demonstrating that you value my guidance enough to pay attention to details.
The submissives who thrive under my training are those who listen carefully, ask clarifying questions when needed, and execute tasks with precision and care.
4. Patience and Persistence
Submission is a journey, not a destination. I expect submissives to understand that training takes time and that growth comes through consistent effort, not overnight transformation.
The most impressive submissives I've encountered are those who continue showing up, working on themselves, and demonstrating commitment even when the path becomes challenging.
Common Mistakes Submissives Make
1. Confusing Submission with Desperation
Nothing turns me off faster than a submissive who approaches me with desperation rather than devotion. Submission should come from a place of strength and conscious choice, not from neediness or a lack of self-worth.
Before approaching any Domme, work on your self-confidence and understand that you bring value to the exchange. you're offering your submission as a gift, not begging for attention.
2. Focusing Only on Sexual Aspects
While D/s dynamics often include sexual elements, reducing the relationship to purely sexual terms demonstrates a fundamental misunderstanding of power exchange.
The submissives I value most are those who understand that service extends far beyond the bedroom, it encompasses mental, emotional, and practical forms of devotion that enrich both our lives.
3. Bratting Without Permission
Some Dommes enjoy playful resistance or "bratting" from their submissives. I am not one of them unless I've explicitly stated otherwise. Unsolicited bratting shows a lack of respect for my dominance and my boundaries.
If you're naturally inclined toward bratty behavior, discuss this openly before attempting it. Remember: consent applies to Dommes too, and we get to decide what kinds of submission we enjoy.
For My Fellow Dommes: Recognizing Quality Submission
To my Domme sisters reading this: train your eye to recognize the subtle signs of exceptional submission. Look beyond the obvious displays of subservience to identify those who demonstrate:
- Consistency in their behavior across all interactions
- The ability to receive constructive criticism without defensiveness
- Initiative in finding ways to serve that you haven't explicitly requested
- Emotional intelligence and adaptability to your changing needs
These qualities indicate a submissive with long-term potential who will continue to grow under your guidance.
The Path Forward
For submissives reading this guide: use it as a mirror to examine your own approach to submission. Are you offering the kind of service that would make a Domme like me take notice? Are you approaching submission with the respect, honesty, and dedication it deserves?
Remember that true submission is earned through consistent demonstration of these qualities, not through empty promises or momentary displays of devotion.
For those worthy few who embody these principles: your service is a precious gift that deserves to be treasured by a Domme who recognizes your value. Never settle for less than the respect your submission deserves.
Until next time,
